What do ex-bahais have to say about the Baha'i faith?

Many people on reddit/r/exbahai mentioned they wasted years of their youth in this religion. One major point is that they exert strong pressure to convert others, members are motivated to spend large amounts of time proselytizing and trying to turn everyday conversations into spiritual ones! There is also great pressure to donate money, especially for building temples and shrines, which happens instead of funding practical help for communities, like soup kitchens or disaster relief. Baha'i faith is sexist, despite its abundant teachings on equality, women are banned from serving on the faith's highest governing body, the Universal House of Justice, and Baha'i law gives sons greater inheritance than daughters.

Some exbahais described the religion as a "well disguised doomsday cult" or a "full-blown cult". This view comes from the belief that only the Baha'i faith can save humanity from a coming "great calamity," after which the faith's administration would become a one-world government. Although the religion promotes independent investigation of truth, the central leaders censor publications and discourage members from reading unfiltered scriptures. People who question the highest leaders risk being labeled a "Covenant Breaker" and shunned, a rule which is often kept hidden from newcomers. The central governing body claims to be neutral in politics, but historically the leaders had ties to colonial governments and Israel, and chooses not to help mediate conflicts or deliver humanitarian aid, while simultaneously spending millions on fancy buildings.

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